How to forget the past, live in the present and Not to think about future!!yadvendra Gautam
Dwelling on the past or focusing on the future can make you lose sight of your present life. This can make your life quickly pass you by without enjoyment of the present. If you find yourself focusing too much on past events or trauma, or worrying about the future, there are some methods that can help you learn to live for today.
1.) Forgive and forget
Focusing on who to blame for past hurts can spoil the present. Instead of dwelling on who has caused you pain, forgive them. Focus on present events and leave behind any blame or hurt your feel. If there is someone in your past that has hurt you, choose to forgive and forget. Festering in the pain doesn’t harm the person who hurt you and will cause you to stay in the past.
2.) Block your memories
IF all attempts haven’t worked, try blocking or pushing aside your memories. This can help you get over bad memories with enough time. Plus, pushing the bad memories far enough into the back of your mind will help them bother you less. Envision yourself pushing the worries behind a door and locking it. Giving yourself a mental image will help, especially if th memories or worries are strong.
3.) Seek help from a mental health professional
Many people in the society thinks if somebody consults a psychologist.. He/she is mad. But that’s not true. Look for a counsellor or program that specialises in trauma. You are in charge of your recovery and how and when it will take place. However you decide to pursue treatment, your program should offer these essential things. i.e. Empowerment, Validation, connection.
4.) Confide in someone you trust
Talking about what happened to you is an important part of healing. Choose someone patient, kind and someone who knows that what happened to you is serious. Someone who responds with things like “just don’t think about it anymore’, “forgive and forget” or “that’s not so bad” is not an appropriate person to talk to.
5.) Change your routine
One way you can get stuck in the past without knowing it is to get stuck in a routine. May be you do the same thing the same way every day or at the same time every week. While routine can be comforting, it can make you feel stuck and forget about the present all together. Instead, change up your routine. Walk a different way to the bus stop or drive a different way to work.
6.) Focus on happy things
IF expressing your feeling about the past has not helped, focus on happy things. You can’t change the past or worry about the future, so don’t dwell on it. Think about happy things happening right now. IF you find this hard, create a touchstone for yourself. For example, create a happy place that you can think that connects with your current life, such as your favorite reading place in your backyard. IF you find yourself thinking too much about your past or worrying about the future, imagine the happy times you have there or even picture yourself in that comforting place.